Dr Delroy Hall

Hi everyone. I hope you are well, warm, and, keeping dry. Please see below. If you are unable to attend, please share with your networks. Thank you.

Hi everyone, I hope you are well. Please note date change for the up coming moral injury conference on Saturday 25th January at 10.00 - 1.00 pm. See you there. Delroy eventbrite.com/x/shadows-on-…

Hi folks, Here is a conference happening at the end of this month. Check out the link to see if this is of interest to you. eventbrite.com/e/shadows-on-…

"...Some partners, in time, stop defensive attacking and start paying attention. By staying grounded in your position, you're standing up for yourself, but also allowing your partner to evolve—if they can." Carol A Lambert.

Hi all, I hope the day has found you well. I will be live tonight at 7.00 pm exploring how to protect yourself if you are being gaslighted in her personal/romantic relationship. youtube.com/live/X-oldojRmyc… See you then. Delroy

Gaslighters love getting you angry. Try as much as you can, not to. Remain calm and indifferent to their behaviour. Not engaging with them shows you have a level of emotional and self-control.

Gaslighting is destructive and manipulative behaviour, but we can be active in our interactions with a gaslighter. Over the coming days, and my next broadcast, Tuesday 8th October at 7.00 pm, I will share a few hints and tips how we can protect ourselves in such circumstances.

If you suspect your partner is gaslighting you, do not argue with them, don’t get trapped into whether something happened or not. Confusion, chaos and disturbance is the gaslighter’s oxygen...cut off their supply!

One of the signs of being gaslighted in your relationship is when your emotions are constantly belittled or dismissed.

This quote needs no explanation, but if you are experiencing this in your relationship, you may need to make a decision.

There was many a day when I was involved in active leadership where I wanted to roll over and go back to sleep because I knew what I had to face. One thing I learnt. Learn to face the truth today so you do not have to face how harsh it will appear a little later down the road.

While we are alive on this planet we will always be confronted with difficult people and having to make tough decisions for the betterment of those around us. Integrity, transparency, and the fight against corruption, are three indispensable aspects of leadership.

Without being melodramatic, good and effective leadership can save your life. Need I say more?

Leadership is not for the faint hearted, and those running to be a leader, I question whether they understand it or not. This quote is a timely reminder of how challenging leadership can be, but if you can find the courage to follow through, the changes can be enormous.

Black History Month approaches. Are you still seeking a keynote speaker who inspires, educates, and engages audience? I offer dynamic keynote talks not only for Black History Month but throughout the year, covering a wide range of impactful topics. Contact me to find out more.

Anyone who says leadership is easy, is not being truthful. Confronting the gaslighter, it is tough, but if you let the situation slide you will be in for a warm time later. So, come on. Gird your loins, take a deep breath, and even if your knees are knocking, do what is right.

Check out the latest article in my newsletter: Creating a wholesome work environment: Erasing gaslighting, a CEO/Leadership Imperative for staff cohesion linkedin.com/pulse/creating-… via @LinkedIn

Despite all your strategies, the truth is, you may need to leave your workplace. Have, or develop, an exit strategy. There is no point remaining in a place if the level of gaslighting/toxicity is making you sick. Your health and wellbeing are non-negotiable. Never forget that.

If you are to remain in toxic workplaces, learn resilience. Remember, negative messages from gaslighters are not your fault, but learn about self-compassion. Kristen Neff says, "self-compassion comprises three components. Self-kindness. Common humanity, and mindfulness."

Hi everyone, I hope you are well. Black History Month approaches. Are you looking for a dynamic keynote speaker? If so, reach out and connect with me. I am available for keynote topics outside of Black History Month. Looking forward to hearing from you. Delroy Hall