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Something new Dommes really underestimate is how much of building an account is simply STILL BEING HERE. So many girls arrive ridiculously motivated, post constantly for two weeks, have one quiet period and disappear because they decided it “wasn’t working.” Meanwhile the accounts you think appeared effortlessly successful have often been posting, learning, changing things and building connections for YEARS. You do not need to conquer the entire TL in your first month. Sometimes progress looks extremely boring: you kept going. <3

New girls, please remember that a quiet day does not erase all the progress you’ve already made. Growth isn’t going to look exciting every single day. Keep showing up, keep learning & stop being so hard on yourself. You’re doing fine. 🫶

Every time I post about an obvious scam somebody says “surely nobody still falls for this?” Yes. They do. That’s why the scam still exists 😭 Something being obvious to you because you’ve been online for years does not make it obvious to a girl who made her account last Tuesday. I’d rather repeat basic advice than watch somebody learn it after losing money.

I genuinely think women need to pay more attention to whether the man they’re dating actually LIKES women. Not whether he finds women attractive. Does he even LIKE women? Does he enjoy women’s company? Respect women he isn’t attracted to? Take women’s interests seriously? Actually enjoy spending time with his girlfriend without acting like he’s been dragged away from “the boys”? 😭 Because some men will pursue women their entire lives while complaining about everything women say, do, wear, enjoy and care about. At some point you have to ask what exactly he likes besides having access to one.

You are allowed to have boundaries with other Dommes too. Being part of a community does not mean everybody automatically gets access to your time, private information, group chats or friendship. You can be supportive, friendly and involved without telling strangers your entire life. Online community is still online. Keep some things for yourself. 🖤

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Men will say women gossip too much and then somehow know the entire employment history, relationship status and current form of a footballer they have never met. 😭

New Dommes, looking wealthy and BEING financially secure are two completely different things. Please don’t put yourself under financial pressure trying to create some imaginary lifestyle because you think everyone on your TL is living like that. You are seeing what people CHOOSE to post. Save some of a good month. Think about taxes. Build an emergency fund when you can. Buy nice things because you actually want and can afford them, not because you think your account needs a costume. Financial stability will always impress me more than pretending. 🤷‍♀️

I genuinely think some women would enjoy the internet 10x more if they stopped feeling obligated to defend themselves to random men. You don’t have to prove that your boundaries are reasonable. You don’t have to convince him that your experiences happened. You don’t have to win the argument before you’re “allowed” to block him. Somebody can misunderstand you, disagree with you AND think they got the last word. The sun will still rise tomorrow. I promise. 😭

Some of you are comparing your month-old account to women who have been here for years and then wondering why you feel behind. You ARE behind. That’s how time works. 😭

A man calling everything women enjoy “basic” while having the exact same haircut as every man he’s been friends with since school will always make me laugh.

One of the healthiest things you can learn early is that not every post needs to perform. Sometimes you write something you love and twelve people see it. Sometimes you post a random thought in thirty seconds and suddenly everyone has an opinion. That's social media. Pay attention to what works, but don't let the numbers underneath every post decide whether it was worth saying.

A man respecting a woman’s authority does not make him weak. Some of you have just been taught that masculinity requires treating women like they’re beneath you.

I think newer Dommes sometimes put WAY too much pressure on themselves to have their whole account figured out immediately. Your first posts might be awkward. Your personality might take a minute to come through. You’ll probably try things that make you cringe three weeks later 😭 that is literally fine. Nobody handed the girls who’ve been here for years a perfect brand on day one. They figured out what they liked, what they hated, what felt natural & what absolutely was NOT them. Give yourself room to change things without deleting your entire account every time you have an identity crisis 😂 You’re allowed to experiment. You’re allowed to grow out of things. The goal isn’t to look like you’ve been doing this for five years. The goal is to still be here learning.

I need women to stop assuming every man saying something horrific online is simply waiting for the correct woman to explain it nicely enough. He has Google. He has friends. He has presumably existed in society for several decades... 😭 Sometimes he understands perfectly well why women are angry. He just also knows that saying something outrageous will get 200 women in his replies giving him exactly what he wanted: attention.

I’ve noticed a lot of new girls change EVERYTHING the second they have a quiet week. New posting style, new aesthetic, new personality, new strategy… sometimes they practically rebuild the entire account by Friday 😭 You need to give things enough time to actually learn what works. One good post doesn’t prove you’ve cracked the algorithm, and one bad week doesn’t prove your entire approach has failed. Look for patterns over time instead of reacting emotionally to every number you see. The girls who’ve been here for years have usually changed plenty along the way, but they didn’t make every decision based on what happened yesterday. Experiment, absolutely. Improve things when they need improving. But don’t confuse constantly starting over with growth. Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is give yourself enough time to see whether something actually works. 😊

Nothing makes my blood boil like scammers trying to trick hardworking Goddesses out of money with fake promises. If a “daddy” wants a fee from you, BLOCK. You’re worth real tributes, not fake fairy tales. 💎