Exactly this. I don’t want boys and men flocking to the depraved manosphere. That won’t bring about their flourishing but only make them and society worse. That’s not what I want for my daughter—a generation of alienated men is dangerous to her and to all of us. But I also know that this cultural moment we’re in is practically pushing men off to the manosphere, and then we shame them for it. We need to do some serious reflection and stop marginalizing them and minimizing their pain and loss of identity, belonging, and purpose. I HATE those stupid “The future is female” shirts. What are males supposed to do with that kind of messaging? Step aside and become and do what? We can’t just call them out when they misbehave and then abandon them, because that just radicalizes people. We also have to call them IN—call them in to purpose and greatness, remind them of their value and that they’re loved. Call them into community with godly role models who genuinely want to know them and can speak truth and correct in love. Give them a better story and inspire them. See their potential. Nothing transforms a person like love and grace, and belonging and purpose and work and responsibility—calling them in to a beautiful story within which they can confidently take their place and live courageously and convictionally. They will more likely treat girls and women well when they’re treated well and not devalued and dismissed. Somebody has to go first. 🙏 Among the people on here I see doing a redemptive work are @drantbradley, @Merobinaa, @NewEmergingKing, @iamrodneysmith and @CoreyBBrooks. All Black Christian men—sacrificially devoting their lives in the trenches to building up boys (and girls too) and pushing back against the effects of the Fall. That is a beautiful, sacred work that will earn many heavenly crowns. Grateful for them. It’s so much easier to tear down than to build up. But to what end?

Government-subsidized loans directly led to mass tuition inflation by creating rotten institutional incentives. But discriminating against those choosing lower-paying careers is not the way to address the problem. Many careers that aren’t financially rewarding benefit society.

I think this is true of more people than we realize. Our backstories and the people who rejected us play a formative role in our lives and how we make sense of the world. We all long for our stories to be redeemed in some way, and we all long for identity, belonging, and purpose—sometimes so desperately that we self-sabotage by differentiating ourselves from the very people we need most in order to heal. We hate and villainize others to normalize and numb the pain. Or we seek the approval of those whose acceptance we crave. Too often we project our issues onto others. Us vs them feels good if it means we can be a part of an “Us.” But it’s a destructive illusion. The world is full of wounded people. When I encounter cruelty and sweeping derogatory generalizations about people on here my first thoughts are “Who hurt you?” and “What are you running from?” Thankfully, there’s a loving divine Healer whose open arms we can run to and be put on a path to true wholeness.