Say No to Odogwu culture. That's the root cause I have witnessed men borrowing money to do lavish birthday parties for their wives and girlfriends. Borrowing money to go to Tanzania of all places. Stop the Odogwu culture. Woman wey no like you without money does not like you because you're spending, she's just using you for Instagram likes. Be selfish Take care and charge of yourself first as a man. Be comfortable saying No. Be comfortable offending and disappointing people. It's not just the women in their lives, it's also black Tax from family members. You will die one day but please die happy and on your terms. If everyone else is disappointed and you're happy, so be it. But don't let pressure kill you. Those idiots who put you under pressure will be alive and fine