ABILIWA

Finally, before I log off, when I see Nigerian gender wars, I just laugh. You think you hate Nigerian women because they’re this and that. Women think Nigerian men are the problem. Meanwhile, na bad governance dey do una. Everybody is in survival mode. You can barely meet someone your age, fall in love, start from nothing and build a life together anymore. Love is now competing with the cost of survival. Women are becoming more financially dependent on men because opportunities for financial independence are shrinking. Men are under enormous pressure to provide in an economy where they can barely provide for themselves. Meanwhile, the elites ’ children are still hitting all their milestones. Falling in love, getting married, buying homes, having children and building their futures. Their children are living their lives while you’re putting yours on hold. But instead of questioning the system making life difficult for both of you, you’re busy fighting gender wars. Na bad governance dey do una, but una dey blame each other.