My husband Paul is a Consultant Urologist who is a Genito-Urethral Reconstructive Surgeon. I met him when I was 18 - in our first week at Manchester Medical School. He has gone away to Pakistan to operate on two very difficult cases and he is being videoed as he operates to teach other surgeons out there. He left this note on my pillow which I found when I went to bed last night. When I opened my menopause clinic nearly 5 years I had no idea how it was going to go. Paul and I spent every penny we had so we could open the clinic. He has supported me with creating the free balance app, developing our menopause education programme (which has been downloaded by over 30,000 healthcare professionals globally), the media work I do and also the research we do both in the clinic and collaboratively with other researchers. Paul is there more than he used to be to look after our three children - who have had various health issues - as I spend most of my time working. Neither of us expected the bullying, toxicity and misogyny that I have been and am still exposed to which is exhausting. So many times I have wanted to give up what I am doing but he gives me the strength to continue. I am very lucky having him!