Valrie Horton

"This is not my expertise" is not an admission of incompetence. It's an expression of self-awareness. The antidote to arrogance is not lowering your confidence. It's raising your humility. You don't have to deny your strengths. You just have to recognize your weaknesses.

People are happier to help than we expect. Data: we overestimate how inconvenienced they’ll feel—and underestimate how valued they’ll feel. Asking isn't always a burden. It's often an opportunity to help others feel capable and useful. Seeking help is an expression of trust.

A sign of character is focusing more on how you treat others than how they treat you. Narcissists feel entitled to get respect. They aim to be the most important person in every room. Humble people strive to show respect. They aim to make everyone in the room feel important.