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Dating abroad is much better than dating in the west.
But.
To have a high volume of good looking girls or to find a girlfriend anywhere, you'll still need to be working on yourself, have game and have a system- but the ROI is usually much better abroad.
What's worked well for me:
-Working on myself no matter where I'm living
-Staying in shape
-Getting top tier, professional photos for dating apps and IG, and knowing how to mix in real life approaches
-Screening for medium-high and high interest girls early and screening out low interest and timewasters fast
-Going to dating markets where your value goes further
-Developing a system and optimizing it
And no, I don't pay prostitutes or simp and you don't need to either. Also, the majority of girls abroad are not desperate to leave their country or looking for a green card. The difference is your results will be even better than the West and the interactions will usually be with more feminine and receptive women.
The photos below are some of my highlights from living and dating abroad- not to brag, but it's to show I'm not faking it and to show what's possible.
If you do the work, improve your looks, get the right photos, and develop your game and personality, you'll almost certainly do well and your effort is rewarded more abroad.
In my posts I share actionable, no BS game strategy and tips from my real world experience.
Cheers!
Don't be like this guy.
It gets you short replies, turns her off, etc.
Meanwhile this same girl has sent me nudes and used lots of emojis, messaging first, etc.
It's still blows my mind how many western guys abroad have zero game and chase/simp/have no self respect. They got the memo somehow to go abroad but didn't get the memo not to simp and chase.
Don't use dating apps if you're an average guy, for a few reasons:
1)Ratios: 75% of dating app users are male
2)Swipe gap: Men swipe right on 50% of women. Women swipe right on 5-10% of men.
3)Abundance makes women pickier: every chick has 99+ likes in her queue. They'll get 99+ a day. So even if it's subconscious, their value self-perception goes way up and they get artificially much pickier. (Ie- you could be a male 6 and 5'10 and a 5/10 chick who's slightly chubby will swipe left most of the time. Even though in reality, you're still above her level)
4)Lots of fat chicks: for the USA, outside of California and Florida, there's a lot less chicks in good shape. Many are carrying 15-20 extra lbs, or even straight up fat.
So.
You have to be in the top20% of male profiles to even be in the fucking game.
Top10% to get consistent matches and dates.
Top3-5% is when women message first, invest more, flake less and you get to pick. You'll get some hot girls too.
Top1-2% *consistently* gets the hottest girls on the app.
That's what I've noticed is the reality in any city or country.
And it's extremely location dependent. A guy might be top20% in the west, and then top5-7% in Latin America or Southeast Asia- simply by changing his location.
So as a man, if you can't become *at least* top 20% in your given city, don't bother. It'll be an exercise in frustation- join meet up groups, approach women during the day, etc etc. You'll have to rely on in person game more since your personality, familiarity, social proof and other factors can come out more.
But also, a lot of guys underrate themselves. If you're fit and under 15% bodyfat, decent style, good haircut and you get good photos done, I think the majority of guys can be in the top20%.
So unless you're genetically unlucky, it's still worth trying.
...And if you're in the top10% or better, it works well. You don't see guys bitching about dating apps being shit for men, if they're in the top10%.
So change what you can: improve your looks/fitness/style, get good pics and change your location.
Dating abroad has changed a lot over the years.
1990-2005:
-Very few foreigners abroad compared to now
-Girls hadn't experienced waves of foreigners yet and there was genuine curiosity
-White god factor in full effect
-No dating apps or IG, so you needed to actually approach IRL
-Still needed game to run high volume and get more innocent types
2012-2016:
-Foreigners were now fairly common(hugely dependent on city though)
-Foreigners still seen mostly as a novelty
-Digital nomad and guys going abroad for better dating became more popular but still new and ahead of the trend/masses
-Less white god factor, moreso exotic value
2026:
-Foreigners are now a known category, not a novelty (unless you go deep into lesser known places)
-Girls have seen it all and have been exposed to female TikTok dating advice, boss babe content, female empowerment lyrics in pop culture songs, Netflix brainwashing, etc etc
-More sugar culture being normalized and some girls are adopting beliefs like expecting a fancy restaurant or rooftop just to meet for a date
-Locals have "Are We Dating The Same Guy" groups and local Facebook gossip groups
-Foreigner fatigue among many locals. Social media sensationalizes things like "foreigner behaving badly in XYZ country" and it goes viral and contributes to foreigner fatigue
If you're going to LATAM, SEA or EE, thinking it's going to be shooting fish in a barrel and you're automatically some "king", those days are (mostly) gone.
Yes, it's easier than the west. Girls in general are sweeter, more agreeable and more feminine. Your dating life will be better. But temper your expectations slightly.
You'll still need to be working on yourself if you wanna get really good consistent results.
This is what a damaged girl on tinder looks like.
PS- this is a player buddies' screenshot w a girl in Manila. Apparently she had a negative bio also.
Lessons:
-dont match girls with jaded/negative bios
-move on fast when a girl isn't interested instead of trying push through
-you can do well with girls and still get BS
-Hard screen game will polarize (although she was way too rude and masculine)
-Dont take it personally, girls like this think they're the prize when they're not
This is a proper sequence from match to date on dating apps and has gotten me 400+ first dates:
Lightly flirty or curiosity hook opener
V
Follow up banter
V
1-2 back and forths of small talk/logistics
V
Soft close (suggest meeting) and gauge her enthusiasm/reaction
V
Get her number
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Over text:
Callback opener
V
Quick voice note to show your personality/voice/humanize you
V
Recall about meeting up/suggest the date again
V
Lock in the day/time/place (ideally no more than 3 days in advance)
V
Tell her you'll text her day of
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Late morning/early afternoon of:
Chill, quick confirmation text (no this is NOT weak or needy, especially when phrased well)
V
Tell her to let you know when she's getting ready/on the way (this gives you a timeline of when to even begin prepping)
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It's literally that simple. Too many guys waste time or think they need to build a ton of rapport. Most girls who are actually interested don't need to "get to know you more first".
The pros with this system is that it's repeatable, flexible(what exactly you say can be changed and optimized for your style/personality) and moves fast but not so fast that it scares girls off. It has a few subtle strategic DHVs, humor and a light flirt or two thrown in. It's also tends to screen in only girls with strong-medium and better interest.
The cons with this system is that, yes, you will "lose" some girls you could have met if you put a little bit(I emphasize little bit, not weeks of texting) more time into it. But if you have good volume, it's basically doesn't matter.
All the types of girls you'll come across on dating apps:
1)The Agenda Mode Girl:
overly logical, calculated, guarded and feels intense pressure to mindlessly filter for a relationship fast. Looking for "red flags" to disqualify you. Running thru a checklist instead of treating you like a human. Asks "what are you looking for?" "No hookups" "Dating with intention". Has poor results for actually finding a boyfriend.
2)The dating app slut:
has 2-3 apps and uses them a lot, always talking to/fucking new guys, usually doesn't get attached quickly, high body count(usually 20-30+). Usually has a couple tattoos, always going out or partying, overly comfortable and confident coming to your place, has condoms in her purse, she's totally cool with you seeing other girls, usually cool to be around. Depending on your tolerance, can be fun to date but not for anything serious.
3)The curated princess girl:
sees dating more as a transaction, not for connection. Offer oriented and demands fancy dates or she won't meet, and has a curated, performative Instagram full of dolled up photos: skirts/rooftops/fancy meals/travel/etc. Has an entitled attitude and is more in it for the experience and the offer than the guy itself. Usually doesn't show much interest or enthusiasm. Expects a lot but doesn't give much in return and acts like she's the prize. Usually she's cute or hot but not very feminine or sweet.
4)The high interest prude:
Long high effort replies, perfect grammar, asks you tons of questions, even drops a flirty emoji, but the second you flirt or sexualize slightly or try to meet quickly, she steers it right back to "safe" topics. All rapport and zero genuine desire, if you're not careful she'll walk you straight into a platonic frame. She's trying to control the pacing on her terms. Often in agenda mode.
5)The foreigner groupie girl:
when abroad, this is the local girl who "only" dates foreigners and has had an American ex and British ex and French ex and German ex, etc etc. Usually has an opinion of each country of guy and what they're like. This girl is usually a slutty type and has been around.
6)The low interest girl:
short replies, doesn't ask many or any questions to you. Every step feels like work. She's difficult for you. Usually tries to give you IG & not her number, says she "doesn't drink 😅", difficult to set a date with, ghosts, etc.
7)The prosititute using the dating app:
Overly sexual photos, something feels slightly off, she offers her number and/or to meet very quickly before you've asked, she immediately unmatched the second you text her number, hides that she's "working" until you're off the app
8)The 49er effect girl:
She's mid or not very attractive but gives you low or lukewarm interest, when you're out of her league. She's not special but she acts like she's the prize because she gets 200 likes a day(mostly from mediocre or lower guys just wanting to hookup). Or she's been pump & dumped once or twice by a hot guy & she now thinks that's that's her level. She's delusional.
9)The high interest girl:
The best type. She's agreeable, enthusiastic, asks you questions, doesn't play games, she meets quickly and doesn't make rules for you. She goes with the flow and is sweet and fun to be around.
10)The good girl trying an app:
Low body count, sweet, but also usually a bit guarded. Can sometimes be in agenda mode but can also sometimes be worth warming up a bit more.
11)The follower farming girl:
Says "Not on here much. My IG: (insertbio)". She's in it for attention farming and validation. Usually not trying to meet anyone.
12)The mindless autopilot reply girl:
Short replies, she's not even reading your messages or replying about what you said- she's on a script. "Hi" "How are u" "Good to meet you" "How old are you" etc. Sometimes there's a language barrier, but usually she's just lazy/low interest/talking to tons of guys running the same script.
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The list continues. Part 2 👇🏻👇🏻
PART 2- All the types of girls you'll come across on dating apps:
13)The taken girl:
She has a boyfriend and she's cheating or she's in an open relationship and puts that in her bio. Sometimes makes a couples profile. They have no respect for their boyfriend but only want to meet on their exact terms. They can have a very transactional mindset.
14)The last minute "wanna meet?" girl:
You've had a lot of dating app convos recently and all of the sudden one girl wants to meet that night right away. You've sensed it's not a scam and screened her. She's horny and wants it right now, when she wants it. Can be fun if you're not busy or committed to other plans.
15)The sexting/always sexual girl:
She sends you nudes very easily and is highly sexual. She only texts when she wants to exchange nudes or meet for sex when she's available. Oftentimes, keeps asking you for more pics/videos before sending all of hers.
16)The extortion scammer:
She(probably) exchanges a nude with you or you have a video call and it turns sexual. Out of nowhere if shifts to threats and she'll send screenshots of all your social media, contacts, employer, etc and threatens to send your photos to them if you don't send XYZ amount of money within XYZ timeframe.
17)The dinner whore:
She's using apps simply to extract free dinners and IG stories from men, then she ghosts after the date. She doesn't come home with you. Usually has a slight going through the motions vibe.
18)The tourist fling girl:
She's in town for a short trip or weekend or vacation. Usually down for a hookup and you both know exactly what it is. Still requires games and not triggering her ASD despite that.
19)The rebound girl:
She's just broke up with her ex and is coping with it by downloading a dating app. Sometimes they'll meet and are very easy. Usually, they're just their to test the waters, feel better about themselves, trauma dump, and not actually meet when it comes down to it. Requires fast and direct screening.
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That's all I can think of for now. I'm sure there's some more archetypes but that covers almost all of them.
Fuck getting laid. Here's how to tell she ACTUALLY likes you:
-She wants your creampie or swallows your cum (girls who aren't into you/are prudes(but also be definition aren't that into you) immediately go clean up your load and don't want it near their mouth (or they get upset that you came inside them)
-She opens up her own wallet sometimes to pay for little things
-She always down for the type of dates YOU want, even if she's not that into it (ie-joining you for a hobby you like, eating a food she normally doesn't like that much because you're cooking it or want to go eat it)
-She gives you BJs (a lot)
-She remembers little things you said/like, from multiple dates ago and you don't even remember you said it
-She helps around your place without being asked
-She genuinely respects you
-You get sick, and she wants to come take care of you (not just a "hope you feel better. Get some sleep 🙏🏻" message)
Sex usually means a girl has high interest in you, sure. But there's levels to that too. And plenty of girls can also just had a horny night and wanted to get off, and you were just that dude that particular night.
"Age gaps are bad" is some of the biggest bullshit in the west (and spreading abroad too).
A 21 year college chick will think a 28-30 year old guy "too old" in most cases.
And don't even mention a 40 year old guy dating a 23 year old girl or he'll be accused of being a "predator" or "pedophile"(which isn't even the proper decision of the word).
This is mostly social media perpetuation and modern cancerous culture coming out, trying to shame men for their preferences.
Because if a 25 year old guy is dating a 44 year old woman, nobody will say it's bad. "Good for her lol" or "he just likes milfs" etc.
The truth is men are attracted to youth, fertility and beauty. And innocence also holds more value than slutty women. On average, a 20 year old girl is more fertile, tighter bodies and less fucked out than a 34 year old woman. This is nature.
My advice to men, don't let women or society shame you for what you're attracted to or what you want.
As long as both parties are happy and okay with the age gap, that's fine.
The biggest fucking turn off is when you date a Thai girl and she has a British accent.
Or Aussie. Or she's "learned" Portuguese or Spanish or French or some shit.
Hint: her ex(es) is from there.
Every time you talk to the chick you're reminder indirectly of her ex.
Brutal. Fun only 🤣
World Wingman retweeted
In order for a woman to be interested in a man she has to think that man is better than her. When you tell every young girl that she's just as valuable as every young boy and they grow up with that messaging for their whole lives, men aren't interesting anymore.
Mistake1: dinner as date1
Mistake2: didn't make a move or hit (guarantee it)
Mistake3: overly "yes man" energy and trying to immediately ask her out again
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Fixes:
-Drinks or coffee or an activity you enjoy
-Make your move
-Tell her to text you when she gets home safe. If you didn't hit say "Okay cool, see you around soon" If you did hit it matters a lot less what you say but don't ask her out again. right away. Let it sit for a couple days.
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I had a guy hit on girl in front of me also, and I handled it a bit differently.
I'm in Bangkok playing pool with a first date. An older guy at the bar (who I knew a little bit from pool during previous visits) sits on the stool next to my date while I'm playing. He's talking with her going indirect but he's interested in her. He's asking her questions, saying how he speaks Thai(he does), and this goes on for 2-3 minutes or so. She didn't seem interested but she did ask him a couple questions back and engaged a bit.
Before my next shot I turned to him and said quite firmly
"(his name), we're on a date together. Can you have respect"
He's taken aback "What? Are you serious right now?"
"I'm dead serious. You don't need to be chatting up my date. Have some respect"
"What? You can't be serious." Then he yells at me and loses his composure and goes "Don't you EVER talk to me like that again" and he walks up and leaves.
I continue my pool game. Go back and sit with her and tell her "Yo, I know you're not interested in that dude, but don't talk with other guys like that when we're on a date. It's disrespectful". She says "Okay, I'm sorry" 2x and seemed to mean it and gain respect for me after that.
We go home and fucked 3 rounds and kept dating a bit after that.
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So there's basically 2 paths you can take:
1)Observe and say nothing. Wait for her to reject him, as she should. But you can't be meek/weak body language/looking away from the situation.
Pros: gives you a real read on her respect/loyalty level and how she carries herself. It's a class move by you if you carry yourself pretty well.
Cons: you're allowing another dude to disrespect you to your face and not say anything.
2)Call the dude out immediately. This has to be done firmly, and calmly. Not trying to pick a fight or antagonize or get angry, but a short, calm, firm call-out. Something like "yo man, we're on a date. Keep it moving" or "We're together bro. Have some respect"
Pros: it sticks up for yourself and your self respect(not ego, but self respect). Also, some girls genuinely might see some guys as "oh maybe he was just making some quick small talk" and not even know how to shut it down quickly. They should, but some nice chicks still might not have good training on that. So you're basically helping her out as well.
Cons: you don't get the read on how she was going to handle it.
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What a lot of guys don't understand is that they think just observing is "so alpha" and "I don't mateguard bro" but they're missing the point. This isn't even about the girl or being jealous or insecure. It's about respect between two men.
Id say the best approach depends. If she's very close to you or standing/sitting right with you and a guy tries, I think calling him out right away is the best play. That's blatant and has no regard for you.
If it's nearby or happens when you're gone for a moment, observe for a bit in a chill, confident way. Then call him out.
Ultimately, either of these two methods work fine with the right body language and energy. But generally I prefer to call the dude out.
It's not your job to step in if another man starts talking to your girl.
It's your job to physically protect her in a dangerous situation.
If it's just a guy hitting on her, it's her job to reject his advances.
He did the right thing.
He observed her behavior to see if she was going to demonstrate loyalty.
Because if she's willing to entertain other men in front of you, you can be pretty sure what she'd do if you weren't there.
Would you make a girl your girlfriend if she slept with another guy after your 1st date but before you officially became boyfriend-girlfriend?
Remember: this is an anonymous poll. Be honest.
30%Yes
70%No
102 votes • Final resultsThe most subtle, less known reason why girls are giving you low interest on dating apps:
She's already seeing/fucking someone.
Seriously, guys don't even think about this.
Here's how it works:
-Girl downloads app
-Girl goes on a date and starts fucking/see a guy
-She doesn't delete the app right away, but she still uses it a bit, but less
-She's now a lot more closed off to new guys
-She's still entertaining options/keeping backup options/chatting a bit for validation but she's not really emotionally or sexually available. Her real energy is elsewhere
Note that this is a timing issue, it has nothing to do with your game or lack of SMV. You're simply talking to girls who aren't that available.
This is another reminder not to keep beating yourself up over this shit. Oftentimes, a girl's lack of interest or urgency to meet has nothing to do with you.
"No masters degree ever made a man's dick hard" -Paul Proteus (RIP)
First off, she's full of shit.
Second, yes, this is a complete turnoff to red blooded men. This subtly adversarial, "I'm better than you, I compete with you" mentality is an instant boner killer to men.
You'd almost NEVER see this type of stuff abroad.
All the things girls do that give me the "ick":
-Super high body count
-Constantly out partying
-Entertaining offers (fancy dinners, trips, sugar baby/sugar daddy stuff)
-Overly calculated mindset
-Thinks she's the prize above me and puts on a performative prize mentality
-Constantly reposting boss babe and female independence/self love quotes on IG
-Talks too much about her exes
-Clearly not over an ex
-Overly obsessed with the gym
-Her "hobbies": TikTok, sleeping, clubs
-Shes in agenda mode/"dating with intention" "not here for games" "what are you looking for?"
-Demands a dinner or fancy date to meet her
-Has a pre calculated rule about how long she's going to make you wait for sex
As a guy, think about what you like and don't like when dating girls and develop your own personal list and stay true to it.
A few ways to build sexual tension on dates:
-Look into her eyes for a second too long and imagine yourself fucking her
-Touch her cheek and wipe it gently and when she asks, say "you had something there"
-Hold her hand when crossing the street or going up an escalator, etc
-At the right moment if it's touchy, give her a 10 second massage on her traps
-Look at her eyes, then down to her lips, then back up to her eyes. Don't kiss her. Just stop at that with a slight smirk.
-Show her your travel pics/camera roll a bit (carefully curated of course) and "accidently" have a shirtless pic or a dick pic in there and then quickly swipe past it (trust me, this fucking works!)
-Ask her opinion of your cologne, gesture her to come closer and smell your neck. The space and her leaning does just as much or more work than the cologne itself
Some of these may sound corny but they legit work. You do need to be confident, chill and have a good vibe going though.