Dime piece

On first dates, I mostly ask questions around the following: 1. Genotype 2. I usually ask about themselves: things they enjoy doing, favorite meals, birthday, and the major things I need to know about them at first. Like, do you sleep with the lights on or off? 😂 3. Who in your life has influenced you the most? This is more important than it sounds. Listen to the kind of people they take as role models or who influenced them growing up. If they ever mention people like Tacha, Saida Boi, or BBNaija stars, you know what to do next. 4. How important is family in your life? 5. What’s one thing about yourself you think most people don’t notice? 6. How do you handle issues when you’re angry or when things aren’t going your way? 7. How do you feel about gender roles in marriage? 8. How do you handle conflict with family members? 9. What’s your take on feminism or gender equality? 10. What’s the one thing you refuse to compromise on in a relationship? 11. How much influence should parents have in your marriage? 12. How do you handle jealousy, your own or a partner’s? 13. How would you describe your relationship with your father? 14. How important is religion in your life and relationships? 15. How do you define success for yourself? 16. What’s the end goal of a relationship for you? 17. Have you ever thought about marriage, and when do you see yourself settling down? 18. How many kids would you want to have? 19. Have you experienced any childhood trauma? 20. What really happened in your previous relationships? Where did it go wrong? 21. What’s a dream you’ve had since childhood that you still want to pursue? 22. Do you regret any major life decisions, and why? 23. Have you ever sacrificed something important for someone else? 24. What’s your take on forgiveness? 25. What’s a personal habit you’re trying to unlearn? First dates are very important, so treat them as such. Ask meaningful questions, don’t just go to eat, snap pictures of the food, and post on social media. Later in the relationship, when you hear your partner’s view on a particular subject, you’ll be acting shocked. Learn about their values, stance on family, lifestyle, career, and other major areas of life. First dates should give you a glimpse of who they are and whether you are compatible on key aspects. It saves everyone time.