kilo

healthy relationships need enough safety for uncomfortable conversations to exist. if something hurts you, you should be able to say it instead of swallowing it, storing resentment and hoping the other person eventually figures it out. but communication is a two-way responsibility. you also shouldn’t be punished for expressing how you feel. if every attempt to talk about something painful leaves you feeling guilty, dramatic, difficult or afraid, something is wrong. love shouldn’t require you to stay silent just to keep things peaceful. you should be able to say, “that hurt me,” and still feel safe being loved afterward. the right people won’t make honesty feel like a threat.