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We all need and find meaningful connections. My son lives w/ autism and a developmental disability. In his recent exchange w/ his friend, I hear him say “You are my French fry and I am your hamburger”. May we all find our French fries and hamburgers along this journey of life.
$6 a day to “lift” those living with disabilities out of poverty. Let that sink in. Applying for MAID because you cannot afford to live is unacceptable.
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1/2 Well the universe blesses me twice in a week. I ran into Danny again this morning. We are on a first name basis now. He told me he had a nice birthday celebration with two cakes. I think one of them was from his day program. This could be my son in 30 years.
As I struggle with the reality of long term support for my son, the universe sends me a sign. I decide to take the subway to work today. Not a usual thing. As I descend to the platform, a man shouts out to me, “it’s my birthday today, I’m 59 years old!”
We exchange pleasantries and get into a limited short but impactful conversation. He proceeds to tell me that a lot of his family has died and he is now living on his own. He didn’t think he’d like it, but he does.
One of my son’s gifts is his unique and pure interpretation of people, places, events and things. They are so incredible that we’ve coined the term “Ericisms”. One of my favourites is his interpretation of what’s happened to people who pass. They “graduate from life”…..
1/ When my son was first diagnosed with autism in 2001, we began an intensive behavioural intervention program with him. I needed to be at home for 40 hours a week while a parade of behavioural therapist were in and out of my house.
4/ The financial commitment needed to support him in a place of his own is about $400,000/year not including room and board. It’s not even an option. How is this manageable? We need to do something.
5/ Caregivers in this province are desperate and needing help. The system is broken. #ThisIsAutism #onpoli
I wrote this over 20 years ago shortly after my son’s autism diagnosis. It’s adapted from Stephen Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. I try and live these habits although context has changed. Additional resources can be found on my website abaresources.com
As parents of children w/ disabilities age, their natural supports decrease. Parents need to learn how to build supports and leave a legacy well after they are gone. Cousins and siblings seem like obvious natural supports - cultivate these relationships if possible. #ThisIsAutism
The waitlist for housing for adults w/ disabilities such as my 26 yr old son is 22 yrs long. My son will not find a place to live until well after I’m gone - anywhere in the province wherever a bed is available including LTC. The system is broken.#caregiverstress #onpoli
Sharon Gabison PhD, PT retweeted
When I was a kid, my grandfather told me the story of the Buddha and the Angry Man.
It offers two powerful lessons that we all need to hear:
One day, the Buddha was walking through a village when a young man approached and began yelling at him.
"You are a fake! How can you claim to have wisdom to teach others? You know nothing!"
The Buddha paused and smiled at the young man, which further angered him.
"What do you have to say to me? I attack you and you just smile?"
The Buddha replied:
"If you buy a gift for someone and that person doesn't accept it, to whom does the gift belong?"
The young man, agitated, replied that the gift would still belong to him, because he was the one who had bought it.
The Buddha nodded:
"The same applies to your anger. If you come to me with anger, but I choose not to accept it, the anger still belongs to you. You are the only one who is moved by it."
I love this story.
It carries incredible wisdom for navigating the world in the modern age, where everyone seeks to draw you into their latest, greatest outrage.
Two lessons to internalize:
(1) Expressing anger often creates more damage internally than it creates impact externally.
(2) If someone comes to you with anger, always remember that you can CHOOSE not to accept it.
Worth thinking about as you navigate life in the days, weeks, and months ahead...
If you enjoyed this and learned something new, follow me @SahilBloom for more like it in the future.
Sharon Gabison PhD, PT retweeted
The next time someone in your life does something that doesn’t measure up…
Consider using the Docrrine of Charity.
Ask more questions and make less assumptions when things aren’t going well.
People don’t care what you think if they don’t first know you care.
#MedTwitter #FOAMed #MedEd
Sharon Gabison PhD, PT retweeted
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