ARI

Your lack of personal purpose is causing your romantic obsession. When your life is full, you're building something, you're learning something, you're creating something, you're serving someone, you don't have time to spend 4 hours analyzing why they used a period instead of an exclamation point. You read the text, you reply, you move on with your day. But when someone becomes the most exciting part of your life, every notification feels life changing, every delayed response feels personal, every conversation gets replayed in your head like it's game film. Suddenly you're looking for a hidden meanings in messages that were probably sent while they were waiting in line at target. You know, it's it's not that you're deeply in love. It's that your brain has nothing more compelling to latch on to. A relationship was never meant to become your identity. It should add to your life, not replace it. The healthiest people I've met don't love less. They they just have more to love. They have goals, they get them out of bed friends, they invest in hobbies. They're excited about purpose. So, you know ironically, that's usually what makes them more attractive too,because they want a relationship, they don't need one to to feel complete .So before you convince yourself that one person is the answer to everything, ask yourself a harder question if they disappear tomorrow what would still make me excited to wake up? Your answer to that question matters a whole lot more than whether they text it back.