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The 7 pillars of dating success (you only need 2):
1. Looks
2. Wealth
3. Status
4. Aura
5. Tenacity
6. Scarcity
7. Niche power
Out of the 7, niche power is the most underrated and i’ll get to that later, but the most important thing to note is: you only need to rank highly in 2 of the 7 pillars to outperform. 1 pillar is not usually enough on its own
People talk about looks, but while looks alone will get a guy pretty far, looks without aura often eventually runs out of steam. Any woman will tell you about the guy where she “was attracted until he started speaking”
Likewise wealth usually doesn’t stand alone, and by the time a guy has sufficient money to a level where it actually impresses women, he also has status, therefore he has 2 pillars
Indian guys often outperform via very high tenacity, and money once they get established, outworking, out-DMing and out-approaching other guys
The typical "passport bro" dating strategy combines scarcity (he's one of the few expats in her city) and wealth, but can also rank him higher in niche power if she's particularly into his country/culture so it's worth considering how his country is perceived in a particular place
You need to excel in 2 pillars, so even though you ideally want to maximize as many of the 7 as you can, if you want to improve your situation it’s worth considering which of the 2 you can best amplify and start from there
Now all of the categories are pretty self-explanatory. By scarcity I mean how rare your type and qualities are in particular location or context, but let’s take a closer look at #7, because niche power is a highly underrated category imo
What is niche power exactly?
It’s the skinny emo twink with the goth baddy gf you see at rock concerts, he has anxiety disorder but he met her through mutuals at a house party when they were high. All their friends are into the same music and sub-culture
It’s the nerdy neckbeard guy who met his cosplay gamer gf on a Discord gaming server, they bonded for 7 months playing games and talking about random shit before they even met
It’s the guy I knew in Australia who banged a steady slew of Swedish and German backpackers because he had a job driving a 4 wheel drive for a camping tour company on Fraser Island
Or the guy I knew who was a mechanic in El Salvador, he married a hot Australian girl from a wealthy family that he met at a Latin dance night because she was super into Latin dancing
Niche power is in some ways, the antithesis of a dating app strategy. Dating apps are completely generalist and directly pits you against every guy in the city
Niche power is any way a guy can access a dating pool that cuts out, or gives him preferential access over other men
Niche power combines well with both scarcity and status, because the guy only has to have micro-status and scarcity within his particular arena. She thinks it’s cool he is the best League of Legends player, or best dancer at the dance night, or he’s the only guy capable of pulling the guitar out at the house party at 2am etc
There are many possible ways to think about niche power, and you have to be creative within the context that applies to you personally, but in general it’s quite underrated in dating discussions
This guy moved to Sydney, and couldn’t believe how well he was doing, he concluded that Sydney is an amazing dating scene
Now you can see from his approach, he comes across as awkward, fumbling and no game. How is he having so much so success? Sure he’s ok looking (but so are many people in that location)
It’s mostly a result of pillar #6 scarcity, and #7 niche power. He runs around and easily collects numbers because black culture is very popular in Australia, and there are so few blacks there
The 7 pillars of dating success (you only need 2):
1. Looks
2. Wealth
3. Status
4. Aura
5. Tenacity
6. Scarcity
7. Niche power
Out of the 7, niche power is the most underrated and i’ll get to that later, but the most important thing to note is: you only need to rank highly in 2 of the 7 pillars to outperform. 1 pillar is not usually enough on its own
People talk about looks, but while looks alone will get a guy pretty far, looks without aura often eventually runs out of steam. Any woman will tell you about the guy where she “was attracted until he started speaking”
Likewise wealth usually doesn’t stand alone, and by the time a guy has sufficient money to a level where it actually impresses women, he also has status, therefore he has 2 pillars
Indian guys often outperform via very high tenacity, and money once they get established, outworking, out-DMing and out-approaching other guys
The typical "passport bro" dating strategy combines scarcity (he's one of the few expats in her city) and wealth, but can also rank him higher in niche power if she's particularly into his country/culture so it's worth considering how his country is perceived in a particular place
You need to excel in 2 pillars, so even though you ideally want to maximize as many of the 7 as you can, if you want to improve your situation it’s worth considering which of the 2 you can best amplify and start from there
Now all of the categories are pretty self-explanatory. By scarcity I mean how rare your type and qualities are in particular location or context, but let’s take a closer look at #7, because niche power is a highly underrated category imo
What is niche power exactly?
It’s the skinny emo twink with the goth baddy gf you see at rock concerts, he has anxiety disorder but he met her through mutuals at a house party when they were high. All their friends are into the same music and sub-culture
It’s the nerdy neckbeard guy who met his cosplay gamer gf on a Discord gaming server, they bonded for 7 months playing games and talking about random shit before they even met
It’s the guy I knew in Australia who banged a steady slew of Swedish and German backpackers because he had a job driving a 4 wheel drive for a camping tour company on Fraser Island
Or the guy I knew who was a mechanic in El Salvador, he married a hot Australian girl from a wealthy family that he met at a Latin dance night because she was super into Latin dancing
Niche power is in some ways, the antithesis of a dating app strategy. Dating apps are completely generalist and directly pits you against every guy in the city
Niche power is any way a guy can access a dating pool that cuts out, or gives him preferential access over other men
Niche power combines well with both scarcity and status, because the guy only has to have micro-status and scarcity within his particular arena. She thinks it’s cool he is the best League of Legends player, or best dancer at the dance night, or he’s the only guy capable of pulling the guitar out at the house party at 2am etc
There are many possible ways to think about niche power, and you have to be creative within the context that applies to you personally, but in general it’s quite underrated in dating discussions
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The 7 pillars of dating success (you only need 2):
1. Looks
2. Wealth
3. Status
4. Aura
5. Tenacity
6. Scarcity
7. Niche power
Out of the 7, niche power is the most underrated and i’ll get to that later, but the most important thing to note is: you only need to rank highly in 2 of the 7 pillars to outperform. 1 pillar is not usually enough on its own
People talk about looks, but while looks alone will get a guy pretty far, looks without aura often eventually runs out of steam. Any woman will tell you about the guy where she “was attracted until he started speaking”
Likewise wealth usually doesn’t stand alone, and by the time a guy has sufficient money to a level where it actually impresses women, he also has status, therefore he has 2 pillars
Indian guys often outperform via very high tenacity, and money once they get established, outworking, out-DMing and out-approaching other guys
The typical "passport bro" dating strategy combines scarcity (he's one of the few expats in her city) and wealth, but can also rank him higher in niche power if she's particularly into his country/culture so it's worth considering how his country is perceived in a particular place
You need to excel in 2 pillars, so even though you ideally want to maximize as many of the 7 as you can, if you want to improve your situation it’s worth considering which of the 2 you can best amplify and start from there
Now all of the categories are pretty self-explanatory. By scarcity I mean how rare your type and qualities are in particular location or context, but let’s take a closer look at #7, because niche power is a highly underrated category imo
What is niche power exactly?
It’s the skinny emo twink with the goth baddy gf you see at rock concerts, he has anxiety disorder but he met her through mutuals at a house party when they were high. All their friends are into the same music and sub-culture
It’s the nerdy neckbeard guy who met his cosplay gamer gf on a Discord gaming server, they bonded for 7 months playing games and talking about random shit before they even met
It’s the guy I knew in Australia who banged a steady slew of Swedish and German backpackers because he had a job driving a 4 wheel drive for a camping tour company on Fraser Island
Or the guy I knew who was a mechanic in El Salvador, he married a hot Australian girl from a wealthy family that he met at a Latin dance night because she was super into Latin dancing
Niche power is in some ways, the antithesis of a dating app strategy. Dating apps are completely generalist and directly pits you against every guy in the city
Niche power is any way a guy can access a dating pool that cuts out, or gives him preferential access over other men
Niche power combines well with both scarcity and status, because the guy only has to have micro-status and scarcity within his particular arena. She thinks it’s cool he is the best League of Legends player, or best dancer at the dance night, or he’s the only guy capable of pulling the guitar out at the house party at 2am etc
There are many possible ways to think about niche power, and you have to be creative within the context that applies to you personally, but in general it’s quite underrated in dating discussions
This is a guy I knew and his gf, he was 5”3 and she over 6”1, how did he get her? They met on an online forum (not sure which but it was some kind of sub-culture forum), niche power
Western baddie tattoo phrases:
Sanskrit, Japanese, Chinese, Arabic…
Brazil/Argentina baddie tattoo phrases: English
Lesson in there
Big difference I notice from dating millenial women vs Gen Z is that Gen Z women really seem to struggle with comprehending subtle flirting, often they only get it when you’re very direct and obvious with your intent
I speculate it could be because they are so used to guys coming on very strong in their DM’s and comments, that this has become their baseline for what constitutes male interest
One of the differences between male to male communication in Brazil vs Anglo countries is that in Brazil, there is more of an allowance for aggressive words and posturing without necessarily inviting a fight, so this debate format suits them
In Anglo societies especially, displays of aggression is taken as a major disrespect and invite to fight and can escalate quickly unless someone backs down pretty fast to diffuse it
It can be a bit of a culture shock in Brazil when you find yourself in an intense exchange of words with some random, and your inclination especially coming from an Anglo country to think it’s more of serious challenge than it maybe is
Imagine being an older divorced guy, you go to Thailand to start a happy healthy age gap relationship, have a lovely daughter, you bring them back to the West, raise them & give inheritance. 20 years later your brainwashed daughter is radfem posting on Instagram about you. Brutal
If you do well in dating you may not realize how bad many men have it out there. There’s a whole industry based around men paying just for the privilege of DMing e-girls, or paying them to play online games with them. Top earners are making over 550k per year with this alone
I’ve told you before, Australian women are much less superficial and care much less about wealth and finances than American women, perhaps the best aspect of dating there, very egalitarian society
Thinking back on how I was dating this Spanish working holiday visa guy who lived in the most disgusting share houses in Sydney which were infested with bed bugs
He then came and spent the weekend at my parents’ place, brought the bugs with him and my parents had to deal with it for like 2 years before they finally stopped finding bugs
I really owe my parents a lot
Just watched some videos of Buenos Aires in 2022, before Milei quadrupled the cost of living xitter.cf/afcjosh8/status/210720…
Passport bros arriving in South Brazil, trying to impress hotties without speaking a lick of Portuguese:






