American writer at The Observer. TELL ME ABOUT MYSELF, on the rise and impacts of psychotherapy, is out with HarperCollins in 2027. It’s muh-NAH-viss. she/her

UK via Ohio
Joined July 2010
I wrote about how the idea of "romanticising your life" became a shorthand for living the most mundane, routined life possible – and what happens when everyone and everything starts looking exactly the same theguardian.com/commentisfre…
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I wrote about the rise of breast reductions, pitched to young women as resistance to the male gaze, and the framing of cosmetic surgery as “feminist” - but also about grey areas in our culture and the need for honesty about what is and isn’t truly “for us” observer.co.uk/news/columnis…
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I wrote about the growing resistance to criticism in any form – from fans, celebrities, artists and culture in general – and why a vacuum of exclusively glowing praise doesn't actually produce good art, even if it does produce good profits newstatesman.com/culture/202…
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I wrote about what we want from our relationships – in dating, monogamy, even friendship – and the growing number of people not actually seeking real connections, but instead someone to playact a fantasy they learned online: observer.co.uk/news/opinion-…
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The exchange mentioned in the piece / what tipped me into writing this: xitter.cf/Brooke_Lin1/status/194…
Replying to @Brooke_Lin1
We got an update folks
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I mean this with zero shade to this poster because it's an incredibly pervasive idea, but boundaries made around "other people's actions", which dictate what someone else should or shouldn't do around you, are not boundaries
this psychologist on TikTok said that she makes boundaries based on her actions rather than other people’s actions so “i don’t stay in conversations where i'm spoken to a certain way” vs “don’t talk to me this way” 1/2
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There’s a real problem of low-hanging fruit in criticism atm where people keep doing “spicy” “takedowns” of art/people with no real power or relevance - or that no one even considers good. Critique should tell you something new or different not go “That bad thing? Well it sucks!”
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A few years ago I got asked to review Molly Mae’s book and this is exactly the issue - like a) who thinks this is going to be good? and b) what is the purpose other than to provoke her fans/to give her haters a moment to self-congratulate? It’s not criticism, it’s content
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Some thrilling news from me: my debut book TELL ME ABOUT MYSELF, about the rise and impact of psychotherapy on how we see ourselves and each other, as well as my own experience in therapy over the last 20 years, will be published by HarperCollins in 2027! thebookseller.com/rights/har…
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It’s also going to be published by One Signal (Simon & Schuster) in the US, and so far has also been sold to Peninsula in Spain. Truly over the moon and if you’re a therapist - please call me
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My nextdoor neighbours in Greece proudly told me last summer that when they visited the British Museum they all stole something from the giftshop
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I wrote about the Kylie Jenner breast menu and the normalisation of invasive cosmetic work – and the extremely thin arguments about the positive impacts of this new "transparency" and "accessibility" observer.co.uk/culture/bodyp…
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I wrote about the Kylie Jenner breast menu and the normalisation of invasive cosmetic work – and the extremely thin arguments about the positive impacts of this new "transparency" and "accessibility" observer.co.uk/culture/bodyp…
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Some exciting, slightly belated news from me: as of this week I’ve joined the Observer where I’ll be writing across opinion, the magazine and on the new website - alongside some of my favourite editors and journalists. More soon but catch me there from this weekend!
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Sarah Manavis retweeted
I wrote about how the idea of "romanticising your life" became a shorthand for living the most mundane, routined life possible – and what happens when everyone and everything starts looking exactly the same theguardian.com/commentisfre…
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Sarah Manavis retweeted
For the Observer Magazine, I wrote about my terrible secret: that my boyfriend and I have read out loud together for the last seven years – and the psychology and neuroscience behind why it makes adults feel happier and closer, and why you should do it too theguardian.com/books/articl…
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Hello: I'm going to be on 5 Live this morning with Adrian Chiles from 11-12 – talking about Donald Trump, Jeffrey Goldberg, the spring statement and scatter cushions. Tune in! bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/live/b…
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Brands who still write in this register should be automatically liquidated and have their assets split amongst everyone who had the misfortune of coming across their posts
Lipton have announced that their discontinuation of Peach Ice Tea was an April Fools joke.
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I do really want to emphasise this desire to avoid calling misogyny misogyny atm – which I think is partially an overcorrection on the left in response to the last decade of pop culture, but also is... misogyny!
As others have said, I think there is something in this – but it does feel bizarre that, in the midst of what is fundamentally a backlash against feminism and LGBT rights, everyone is so eager to dance around the obvious answer, which is primarily misogyny
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A lot of women I know have noticed it in the last year and imo there's something to be written about how messy it's gotten more acutely in the wake of Trump's reelection as the left reckons with how to bring people back (or over for the first time). If you're an editor etc etc...
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