ash. big ol dyke. black. very very tired

Seattle
Joined December 2025
This app has gotta be one of the few platforms where the more followers you get also gets you an exponentially worse user base experience with very little financial incentive. I don’t miss having a bigger account at all lmao
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I’m pushing 1k again and I see what my oomfs have to deal with when their silly little vent tweets breach containment. I’m just not that convinced that being hot and popular on twitter is worth the psychic damage!
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“Confess your trauma publicly otherwise your vent post is lateral violence” is such a common impulse amongst strangers on here. Cause who tf are you??? Interrogate your impulses to do weirdo parasocial parasitism for your personal entertainment
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I got a big sexy plant that’s my size
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Back when I was way more butch with it I would get hit on with “Do you want to come build me furniture while I call you sexy and strong? I’m kinda a useless lesbian haha it’s so hot that you can Do Stuff” and I rlly need y’all to understand just how pussy drying that routine gets
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No babe I don’t actually think it’s cute that you don’t know how to do stuff and don’t have any interest in learning. It’s not cute when your love language is Acts Of Service and it only goes in one direction. Lesbian equivalent of looking for a bangmaid
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Hot tip for femmes that want devotional competent butches: unless they are extremely emotionally wounded and committing self harm by dating you, bagging one also requires you to be competent and caring!
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I’ll show my offline gf twitter discourse and she tries to convince me to let her ghost write tweets that would get me jumped for 30 days and 30 nights
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I feel so guilty for wanting a butch that'll do everything for me, like hi I have nothing to offer but I'm pretty do you want to devote your entire life to serving me yes or no
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Girls this shit just ain’t cute I’m sorry 💔
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i wish we could challenge this sort of rhetoric on a wide level but that would require trans women being seen as the authority on our own lives. i wish we could criticize harmful sentiments that allies hold without them being dismissed via “so if i like trans women i’m a chaser?”
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i think that cis women should stop having opinions on trans women’s gender affirming care whatsoever tbh, unless that opinion is wholehearted support. even if theyre dating one. especially then as a matter of fact
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No offense (to anyone for any reason whatsoever) but in the modern era there’s not much of a difference between the two
I think everyone should give their definition of tradwife bc half of u are using as a joking short hand for wanting to get married and be a SAHM, and the other half are using it as "wants to be owned as property by a patriarch"
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Also all of the SAHMs I’ve known that aren’t stereotypical tradwives still bought into the male breadwinner propaganda and have deep regrets about the course of their lives
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Being out of the trades for a little while has got me more of a misandrist than ever. Having to constantly check every Neanderthal trades dude you’re forced to interact with on the daily so they don’t treat you like a job maid is fucking exhausting. Don’t miss it at all
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Got my lip repierced and remembered just how much I hate the process. Much love to my needle freak friends but it is really not for me đź’”
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Personally I’m very pro modifying your body to not get hatecrimed or treated as subhuman in your daily life. If it’s accessible to you then why not? Fuck what anyone else has to say, you’re the one that has to live in your body every day. You know what you want
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It’s interesting how much feminist discourse acknowledges that marginalized women will lean into desirability as a survival mechanism. Only to turn around and then go “um actually :/ not like that“ when trans women do the same so they don’t get treated with hostility by strangers
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No, it’s really not that deep lol. You do actually have a duty to the trans women you’re dating and fuck to not do unsolicited armchair philosophy about their gender dysphoria
obviously it’s up to the person and their dysphoria but… i can sympathize why some cis gfs may be wary seeing their trans gf clamor for and doom post about every new surgery (ribs) after a life time of being subjected to society’s constant pressure to adapt new beauty standards
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Some of y’all have gotta figure out how to be there for dysphoric women without making it about yourselves. Not a single trans woman has ever asked me for my two cents about surgeries they want and it should probably stay that way
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Your response to a woman you’re seeing that’s planning for surgery should be “hell yeah” or “what do you need.” That’s it lol. I don’t appreciate unsolicited comments about my body and what I should be doing with it either. That’s just basic respect
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