Ms. Malissia

Imagine entering a room meant to bring out your feminine authority. A private space that breathes sovereignty. Where you get a taste of what magnetic presence feels like, the kind that is undeniable. Where the way you present and speak holds a vibration that raises your standards in the moment. An experience meant to break down walls, fears, limitations and expand you into another level of power. The kind you know you have access to, that you know you posses, but is held in containment... Until that moment. The Authority Room was an immersive intimate event that was curated to play out my teachings in real time. In the flesh. And it changed us all. From the activities that pushed the edges of comfort to the opportunity to receive like a Queen, and be seen and listened to in ways that amplified the frequency of the voice, I can't believe how transformative it was. Every experience I create, both in person and online, starts in my imagination. A vision. And after meeting with Catherine Robbe-Grillet and discussing her ceremonies, I realized that this is something we have in common. At the center of it all, we want resonance with those involved, so we all experience the scene/ceremony within the same frame (and as the leader of it, you set the frame). The Authority Room was infused with the essence of what is core to my work: it is all about female power. And like a delicious perfume that smells long after you spray it, the souvenirs of this day will stay with us forever. Because there is nothing like being present, in the room, feeling it in your body, to embody something on a cellular level. This was the first time I host this event. And like everything that emerges since the beginning of the Mıstress Mindset Brand, the spectacular feedback is what makes me want to do it again. Until then... You can read about the experience in my last Substack Essay 'Authority begins where containment ends'. open.substack.com/pub/lilibe……

This article introduces a core concept behind the book I am writing and the framework behind the Dominatrix Academy. Paid subscribers can now join a private chat with direct access to me, so we can share groundbreaking conversations in parallel with my writing. 🌹🌹🌹 Why is the word Mistress so taboo? Let’s look into its masculine counterpart: Master. Master is the most powerful word that exists. Master of the universe; Master of a craft; Master of one’s destiny. So how did the feminine of Master turn out to be representing the woman we want to hide, instead of simply being the Female Master? It seems that there is a strong symbolic connection between the most powerful word for a woman being held secret and the way women are taught to hide their power. Is it a coincidence that the word has suffered a similar fate to what women have experienced? I don’t think so. For generations, women have been taught to play nice, to downplay or hide their wisdom, knowledge, confidence, sex appeal and ultimately conceal their power by fear of certain consequences. Being ‘too much’ or ‘too full of herself’ or labeled as a ‘bitch’ or a ‘whore’ are some of the reasons that keep the feminine energy compressed. [Read the whole article on Substack]

'The energy with which we build something is the energy it will hold'. - Ms. Malissia

In 2019 I flew to NYC to be trained as a ProDomme by Rina Trevi. This is the story of how this training ended up being a pivotal point of my Mistress Journey as I allowed her to dominate me in a consensual non-consent 2 week 'session'. Since I started having some of my Essays paid, it unlocked my desire to share more personal, secret, vulnerable stories. And there will be also in-depth training and educational content coming soon. I realized how much I personally learn from reading and that we don't always have the time to tune into videos or listen to trainings, but sitting down to read with our undivided attention forces our brain to relax and absorb what is being shared. An opportunity for deep learning, fast. Given I already write daily, sharing uncensored material to those eager to learn from me is a blessing. My exploration of power through surrender of control, trust and receivership led me to the inevitable place of having to share the story of my own experience with surrendering control and relinquished my power to someone I chose and trusted. I am so grateful for the privilege I had to experience this with Rina and I am dedicated to continue passing on the torch of personal power through my own mentorship. Read the full story here: substack.com/@lilibelovski/n…

When we allow ourselves to RECEIVE whether is it pain or pleasure... We allow ourselves to be reached. 'Allowing' implies surrender to it. And when we surrender to the experience we are receiving, we move from observing ourselves to inhabiting ourselves. Both pleasure and pain bring us back to our body. In full presence of it. And the only way the pleasure or pain can become liberating is when we surrender to it. As long as we are observers, we are disconnected from the experience... trying to control it. Whether by giving it meaning, analyzing it, trying to direct it where we want it to go. And that way, staying in control keeps from from receiving. (I speak here of consensual / desired pain).

Time for some hair care 💁🏻‍♀️

It is finally here! The interview I conducted last June with Catherine Robbe-Grillet in France. 72 minutes. Unfiltered. I came with questions and left with a revelation. During our conversation Catherine shared how her wife Beverley (who was amongst us) asked her to submit to her. It was so aligned with how I myself got to be in that room with her. And if you know my story and how I first started meeting clients as a Mıstress, you will find it even more special. This month is Catherine's Birthday. She will be 96 years old next week. And sharing this now comes full circle. The interview was conducted in French and there are subtitles both in english and french. You will learn secret and spicy things both about me and her! And I also give you a detailed report of the whole experience around the interview... as an hommage to how she would report on her ceremonies, as she described it to me. Enjoy 🤍 substack.com/@lilibelovski/n…

Ready for a special dinner for female founders in Montreal 🍸

Speaking on stage about what makes the Dominatrix powerful for @FetishWeekend Montreal

This Sunday I will be a Guest Speaker for Montreal Fetish weekend. @FetishWeekend Who is coming? 🫦

BDSM is not about doing something... it is about going to a place with established limits that free us of our own limitations. Read this very raw piece I just published here: lilibelovski.substack.com/p/…

I was invited to be a guest speaker and teach a workshop on how to Master your Brand without sanding off the edges as an alternative creator, for the students of the one and only @kimiinch 🔥 We begin in 2h 🚀

Bridging fantasy and reality is what my work has always been about. As a Domınatrıx I created scenes that my clients could enter. A space between-worlds where their imagination can take form as I direct the world they step into. A world in which their desires are welcome to exist. Where the intangible can take shape. They entered a world they did not want to leave. My world. I kept living based on the exact philosophy and principles I learned and embodied, by curating and refining my world and my presence in it. This makes life feel like a vivid movie you are the director and main character of... A movie I never want to step out of, while igniting the desire of those who get a taste of it, to enter it and experience it. Now I get to do this for women. I love creating experiences that offer them the opportunity to build their magical world, in which they develop Dominatrix-level authority, where their imagination and leadership coexist and turn their fantasies to reality. This is how the Feminine reigns and thrives.

What is your experience with BDSM and Mindfulness? I am writing an Essay on this subject in parallel with a chapter of my book that touches on the spiritual aspects of this practice and would love to know about your experience. I have found that being in a BDSM scene allows me to practice being so connected to the present moment, so aware of my own presence and the effect it has on the person before me, to observe the body and the mind express in ways that are only visible if you slow down to notice, which creates in itself a sort of transe state. In a fast-paced world, where our attention is pulled in so many directions, our focus consistently compromised by distractions, our ability to be in the here and now requires more effort than ever before. Yet, the moment we step into a scene, suddenly it is as if we enter another dimension, where time and space both disconnect us from the 'outside world' and connect us to the essence of the inner world. I have been bringing this philosophy into my everyday life and it truly impacts my reality. I remind myself... when I slow down, so does time. And then my experience of the moment changes and allows me to connect to the present in full aware presence.

After 4 years THE DOMINATRIX ACADEMY is EVOLVING. A New Era is here. [INFO SESSION DETAILS ⬇️] My signature Program that teaches women the Art, Psychology and Business of Female Domination is now growing beyond the sex industry and the dungeon. As I am no longer in this industry myself and have been devoted to the study of power in all its forms, and how it moves from our private to public lives, and mentoring hundreds of women, I now desire to lead the program differently. And it will be LIVE again! But this time, not centred around Professional Domination but developing your authentic feminine authority, influence and magnetism. The new Program will be an immersive experience created from the skills, the tools, the wisDomme, the codes and principles I learned and embodied from a decade of being immersed in the world of FemDom. The new Program will be taught from the lens of the Dominatrix Archetype. I am hosting an Info Session this Wednesday at 4pm EST. Reply or DM RSVP for the link 🤍

When I first started this account it was for my persona (Mistress Malissia) It was ALL ABOUT ME... or more so... all about Her. The Brand was there to support my work as a Professional Dominatrix. In 2021 I started offering Mentoring and classes very mildly. I then built my educational Brand: Mistress Mindset. In 2022 I founded The Domınatrıx Academy under that Brand. As I evolve and grow, so does my work. Working with personas and archetypes is central to my study of power. But my work is no longer about my persona, but the actual study of power and creating experiences for women to develop their feminine authority. After hosting 2 grandiose events in Spain for the Graduation of the Academy students (The Mıstress Experience) I met a version of myself that is not only capable of creating immersive experiences but that this is what I crave to do more of. This is what birthed HOUSE OF MISTRESS @ houseofmistress.official on Instagram. The Authority Room was the first official event by House of Mistress. And now, my educational platform where my philosophy and my method reside is The Mıstress Mindset Institute where we study power and develop our authentic feminine authority through curated events (online and in person). Which is why I decided after all these years to change the username of this account to be aligned with where I currently am and where my work is moving towards. You can now find me at @thestudyofpower Thank you for being part of my journey! Extraordinary things are coming 🍸

A secret ingredient that nobody talks about and nobody sees, rhat can greatly influence your success. Your private life may be personal but it is felt in public / in your brand. This is what I would start with if I was beginning to build something where I have to sell my services.

THANK YOU 30K FOLLOWERS!🍾 Today I would like to express my gratitude to all of you who have been with me on this wild journey of evolution, from Professional Dominatrix working internationally, to becoming a Mentor to Dommes all over the world, to running the Mistress Mindset Institute focused on the study of feminine power. My work, my brand and my business have evolved alongside me. I have had this account for 7 years and it has allowed my voice and my presence to reach men and women around the globe. Some of you have been following me from the beginning and others are just discovering me now. Either way, each publication here holds an energy that anchors my beliefs and position around the Art of feminine Authority beyond domination. BDSM and FemDom have been central to my work and journey; they allowed me to study power behind closed doors and to bridge the knowledge and wisdom acquired privately into the every life. For the past year my focus has been to write my book and lead immersive experiences (online and in person) for women to explore their feminine authority and influence, develop their leadership, reclaim their personal power, build unshakeable confidence, own their desires and speak up with conviction and clarity, while training men to be high level servers at my curated events. Power exchange and worship of the feminine will always be core to my work. And my work has always had immense impact on those that have had the chance to experience it. But now, I get to create impact beyond play by allowing myself to grow beyond this industry while carrying with me the tools I learned and embodied. Share in the comments the year you found me and something I shared that marked you and made you want to follow along. Or a memory with me! And stay tuned, I am only just beginning. 😈💋