Kunle Shobo

God bless you abundantly for this your submission, ma'am @khykheloormuur What always baffles me is how some people on social media are always quick to project their own realities on every other person's online. Our realities are completely different! For instance now, I come from a very closely knitted family. We all always look out for one another. In this city where I'm currently living, there are no fewer than 14 of my family members (cousins) who are living in the same city as me. Altogether, there are more than 30 of us that are living in the UK alone and spread across various cities; it is like that for US, Canada and Sweden too. Whenever one of us wants to do a thing, the person is never alone; we will all rally around to support that person. So imagine me going home and not visiting any of my cousin's parents. That is definitely never going to happen. When I go home, I'll touch the places of my uncles and aunts whose kids are also abroad. Am I supposed to visit them empty handed? No now. When I travel to their places, am I going to sleep in their houses with my driver too? If my mum was still alive, I'd never have had any reason lodging in a hotel anytime I go home. I'd have happily sleepover at no cost at all at my parent's house. My dad was the only one at home after my mum passed away, and we had to allow him to remarry for companionship. If I go to my dad's house, I won't be very comfortable and the woman with him won't be comfortable either, so why can't we save one another from that stress when we can? That was the reason I always lodge in hotels whenever I travel home. It is not like I like to spend lavishly. Yesterday, I read what a mutual of mine said about his aunt who has been abroad for over 30years but he never contacted her until his dad who came visiting asked him to do so. My family isn't like that. We may not be super rich as a larger family, but there is plenty of love within our family. Our grandma raised all her children and grandchildren with love, and she taught us all to look out for one another always. Going to any of my uncle's or aunt's places while on holiday to Nigeria and me giving them money or material gifts isn't because they are poor or hungry, it is just a way of me expressing love that our matriarch raised us all with. If someone says he spent a certain amount of money during his trip back to Nigeria, I just don't understand how that is supposed to be generating so much fuss in other people's heads. But we just like to make noise over what isn't our problem in the first place. People that said they spent $20k on a trip to Naija didn't come to you to ask for urgent 2k after they come back from their trip, so why are people taking paracetamol over someone else's headache? You can go home on a £1000 budget, but you don't have to be dismissive of another person who says he went with a £5000 budget.