Competence first, confidence second. For parents who want sports to build better athletes who handle hard things, take ownership, and think for themselves.
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Past: Build the thing and if it's fantastic, you're a master.
Present: Accumulate enough bs certificates, and we'll call you a master
This is the true pandemic in sports.
Coaches who spend time making athletes get into shape by running them into the ground should be fired.
They clearly lack the nuance and iq to be high level coaches, OR, aren't willing to adapt with new knowledge.
Stop the old-school bs and adapt with the times
I still have a special hatred for every single coach (football, basketball, tennis…any that aren’t obviously largely about your “motor”) that is obsessed with conditioning to the point that they waste significant amounts of time on sprints or anything similar, especially if the team isn’t extremely relatively skilled.
There are a million ways to get athletes into building their work capacity and even “grit” without insulting their intelligence by spending time running back and forth.
I always thought my coaches were retarded for this but I’m open changing my mind.
Burn this idea into your brain as a parent:
Stop rescuing your kids all the time…
Even when they’re little, you get opportunities all day to solve something for them. A baby crawls somewhere awkward and can’t quite work out how to turn around. Your instinct is to pick them up and place them where they wanted to go.
Sometimes help means giving them JUST enough room or support to make the next move themselves. And sometimes it means letting them straight up fail.
You’ll get millions of opportunities to do this, but unfortunately most people are too distracted or in too much of a rush to pause and realize what they’re doing
I love tennis but it's biggest problem is you HAVE to have similar level dudes to play with. This is why of the "elite" sports, Golf is much better. You can play with guys way worse than you and still shoot your own score, or even better, set up a handicap, and make it competitive..
And anyone who knows tennis knows that 99% of people will claim they play tennis and know how, but then can't even serve.
That's the litmus test: "but can you serve?"
Good alternative, (cue the haters), is get into pickleball.
Easier to find your own level.
Another example of why you never EVER idolize celebrities.
They will lie to at all costs in order to protect their brand. Their god is money and fame. Anything that can grow those two things is fair game.
In fact, it's a big reason for their success. You rarely achieve that level of stardom by staying true to your values.
Of all of the people that should be honest about their anabolic steroid usage, it’s Hollywood actors.
Don’t buy their BS. You don’t pack on 25 pounds of lean muscle in preparation for a movie with intermittent fasting and working out alone. Chris Hemsworth posted some stupid crap recently about working out with bands and that guy is running grams of gear. The band work was just promotional crap.
I’ve worked with several well-known actors and actresses in helping them prepare for their roles in movies and all of them use anabolic steroids.
ALL OF THEM.
The men use a bunch. The reason the women I work with don’t use a pile of AAS is they have paid me good money to keep their voices clean and the masculinization side effects at bay, but some of the cycles that have been proposed to them by well-known Hollywood “coaches” are obscene and would’ve been potentially career ending for the women.
Never idolize anyone
Enjoy sports sure, but making it your identity is a terrible path. Athletes, celebrities and organizations will all pretend to be good people, but at end of day most of them care to make money, and will compromise their “values” in order to do so
Their code of conduct is best summarized as “we believe in whatever we think will make us look good right now”
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Travel sports is not why kids are quitting...
I go watch my niece play rec baseball and all teams are doing the same:
- Best 2 players play pitch and 1st base, (get 99% of the balls)
- Rest of team fights for the scraps
- No word of a lie, in an entire season if your kid gets put in the outfield, they may get one ball all season long...
How is it 2026 and at rec level we're doing this mickey mouse sh*t?
Let the kids play and learn. Get them all reps, switch positions, stop trying to win at all costs.
The sad reality of 90% of youth sports is that the kids who are already the best usually get the most reps.
Go watch rec baseball. They put the best kid on the mound, then they put the second-best kid at first base, (typically one of them just so happens to be the coach's kid), which are the two spots that are going to get all the action. So the kids who are already the best are also the ones getting all the reps.
The kids who struggle get stuck in the outfield where, no exaggeration, they might see one ball an entire season, because most kids aren’t strong enough to hit it out there.
And then later on everyone acts confused about why those kids don’t develop a passion for sports.
Travel sports is not why kids are quitting...
I go watch my niece play rec baseball and all teams are doing the same:
- Best 2 players play pitch and 1st base, (get 99% of the balls)
- Rest of team fights for the scraps
- No word of a lie, in an entire season if your kid gets put in the outfield, they may get one ball all season long...
How is it 2026 and at rec level we're doing this mickey mouse sh*t?
Let the kids play and learn. Get them all reps, switch positions, stop trying to win at all costs.
The sad reality of 90% of youth sports is that the kids who are already the best usually get the most reps.
Go watch rec baseball. They put the best kid on the mound, then they put the second-best kid at first base, (typically one of them just so happens to be the coach's kid), which are the two spots that are going to get all the action. So the kids who are already the best are also the ones getting all the reps.
The kids who struggle get stuck in the outfield where, no exaggeration, they might see one ball an entire season, because most kids aren’t strong enough to hit it out there.
And then later on everyone acts confused about why those kids don’t develop a passion for sports.
The sad reality of 90% of youth sports is that the kids who are already the best usually get the most reps.
Go watch rec baseball. They put the best kid on the mound, then they put the second-best kid at first base, (typically one of them just so happens to be the coach's kid), which are the two spots that are going to get all the action. So the kids who are already the best are also the ones getting all the reps.
The kids who struggle get stuck in the outfield where, no exaggeration, they might see one ball an entire season, because most kids aren’t strong enough to hit it out there.
And then later on everyone acts confused about why those kids don’t develop a passion for sports.
It can be a fantastic advantage if your kid is behind for their age.
Forces them to work harder, problem solve, and learn faster. One of the most valuable skills you can have as a parent is reframing everything as a positive, (assuming nuance of course).
"It sucks cause I'm slower than everyone else"
Yeah, but that will force you to learn other skills and eventually when your speed catches up, the rest of your game will be better than everyone else's...
The next day the reframe is:
"this is a good thing. Most people don't fail enough in life. Once you learn the gist of it, you'll realize the more you fail, the closer you'll get to your true goals, (assuming you're failing because you keep stepping back up to bat)."
One of the biggest youth sports arguments of the next 10 years will be this:
Are we actually developing better athletes, or are we just way better at identifying, organizing, and investing in the kids who look the best the earliest?
I'd suggest the real problem is at Rec
Go watch rec-level baseball and you’ll see every coach put their two best players on the mound and at first base so they can catch the ball, throw immediately, and get the runner out.
In essence, the two best players get more reps than everyone else.
And if you're not good enough to be at second, first, third, or the mound, you get stuck in the outfield, where you might not touch the ball the entire damn season.
On top of that, practice looks like one kid doing a rep while 10 kids stand around, which is a brutal work-to-rest ratio.
No wonder kids are not sticking with sports.
Scott Adams had a similar reframe in terms of how to be more productive:
Instead of thinking: "what happens if this goes wrong?"
Think: "what happens if this goes right?"
In 99.99999999% of cases tennis players know the score at all times
He didn’t magically turn off his brain and “forget” the score cause it was near a pressure packed moment
Freak coincidence
You’ll probably never see this again in tennis
Ben Shelton just made the US Open final and people are going "oh wow, he didn't start tennis until he was 11, see how multi-sport is the way?"
And they fail to mention he literally grew up in a tennis family, with an environment made in heaven for maximizing his skills...(Uncle was a pro, sister played collegiate, and get this - mother played junior level and Dad was a professional...)
But sure, he was multi-sport all the way.
Point is this: you simply can't maximize your ceiling in certain sports if you think you can equally divide your time with multiple sports.
Say what you want but...
This is equivalent to hitting a soccer penalty in a world cup with the world watching.
NAILED IT
Before Djokovic had proven he belonged beside Federer and Nadal, he had the guts to publicly ANNOUNCE that he planned to challenge them.
Which of course, takes a sh*t ton of guts to do… You’re opening yourself up to being laughed at and mocked, and most people simply don’t have the confidence to publicly announce that they plan to compete with two of the best players ever.
But by putting it out there, you’re showing belief in yourself, and you’re setting a powerful goal that you now have to pursue.
And in order to do that, you have to get past the idea of; “what happens if I don’t back it up?”
Because the truth is, we never know if we’re going to back it up. What we do know is that we can put the effort in. And if it doesn’t work out, we have to have the courage to be okay with failing publicly.
Most never get to that spot