I make Youtube videos sometimes Humanist. Feminist. she/her
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![Screenshot of outgoing Signal Messenger message: One of my flaws is that I’m bad at remembering to ask people personal questions; it’s not lack of interest, but rather a trauma response to people having behaved very intrusively toward me as a kid, so from my perspective it feels like it would be inherently nosy of me to directly ask people about themselves - instead, I offer information about myself, then stop talking in order to give the other person space to volunteer their own info if they’d like to do so. I didn’t realize until just a few years ago that many people, perhaps even most people, don’t realize that that’s what I’m doing - they instead think I’m not interested at all in what’s going on with them, and that I only want to talk about myself. [melting face emoji].](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/HPthJboX0AAU2Ma.jpg?name=orig)
ALT Screenshot of outgoing Signal Messenger message: One of my flaws is that I’m bad at remembering to ask people personal questions; it’s not lack of interest, but rather a trauma response to people having behaved very intrusively toward me as a kid, so from my perspective it feels like it would be inherently nosy of me to directly ask people about themselves - instead, I offer information about myself, then stop talking in order to give the other person space to volunteer their own info if they’d like to do so. I didn’t realize until just a few years ago that many people, perhaps even most people, don’t realize that that’s what I’m doing - they instead think I’m not interested at all in what’s going on with them, and that I only want to talk about myself. [melting face emoji].
