Only Allah knows the entire truth of what happened between Alimat and her husband, but going by the husband's defence via third parties, I have a few observations. I'm not yet a certified counsellor, but from my experience mediating in marriages, I can categorically say that, Alimat's only crime against her husband is her desperate desire to have her own money. She wanted to work and earn so she could leave the marriage. Her husband knew this and deliberately frustrated her efforts and will rather destroy her and his children before letting her go in peace. As for his allegations, not once did I see where she said she paid the rent. She said she supported him, which is normal for many women in marriage. As for the terminated pregnancies, this isn't new among couples in the UK even though its wrong. Some are mutually decided between husband and wife. The fact that the husband's consent does not appear on paper doesn't automatically mean the woman made the decision alone. But then, if the husband claims she denied him conjugal rights, how did she get pregnant three good times? Except he is accusing her infidelity as insinuated by car dropping her few houses away from their home. If that were to be the case, we all know that's enough for a proper divorce, not the forged one he did. He said she abandoned the kids to go to work, but she shared a WhatsApp message where you told her not to ask you about your schedules again. Now, telling a woman who is desperate to make money so she can leave you that she cannot work and earn is like keeping her in bondage. What happened to sitting her down and discussing the kind of jobs that would give her the flexibility you wanted? What happened to standing in for her with the kids while she worked within the hours you both agreed on. Many of us have friends over there doing this successfully and living happily. He even said in the message she shared that household where both spouse work is that of kafr, which clearly shows his position on her working. Now that you have left her with those same children in Nigeria, where she has no choice but to work longer hours to cater for them, how exactly have you solved the problem? The same woman you accused of abandoning her children is now left to provide for them. Make it make sense! One would expect that a man whose gheerah has supposedly reached 100%, would go through divorce as directed by Allah himself, or forgery is no longer a sin when it involves your esteemed self? Islam has stipulated rules for marriage, divorce and virtually every aspect of our lives. Why take shortcuts if she actually did all these terrible things you are accusing her of? You all know the Surah that permits marrying two, three and four wives offhand, but how many of you can quote the verses that talk about kindness to wives, women's rights in marriage and the proper conduct of divorce? She tinted her hair. So what? Did Allah forbid every form of hair tinting? The ruling depends on the circumstances, but since when did tinting one's hair become evidence that a woman is a bad wife? ( I actually not only tinted mine, I locked it and my husband is insanely in love with it, as long as i keep i covered) You also claimed to have bought all her hijabs. But why buy hijabs for someone you claim doesn't wear them? And besides, whose responsibility is it to provide for his wife? She said you always called her an ingrate. Where is the lie? A man who counts buying hijabs for his wife as a special deed, imagine what else he will brag about doing for her. Nobody is saying Alimat is perfect or that she did nothing wrong in the marriage. Nobody knows what happened behind closed doors, and only Allah knows the entire truth. But what we are saying is that ending a marriage should not mean annihilating your spouse as punishment for disobedience, not even minding how it will affect the children.